Reduce per-connection memory overhead

- Use sync.Pool for relay buffers instead of stack-allocated arrays.
  A [16379]byte on the goroutine stack forces Go to grow it to 32KB
  (next power of two). Pooled buffers keep goroutine stacks small.

- Same fix for doppelganger write buffer ([16384]byte in conn.start).

- Replace idle goroutines with context.AfterFunc in proxy.ServeConn
  and relay.Relay. These goroutines existed only to wait on ctx.Done()
  and close connections. AfterFunc achieves the same without allocating
  a goroutine until the context is actually cancelled.

Net effect: at 3000 concurrent connections on a 1-vCPU/961MB VPS,
the unmodified binary drops 246 connections and falls to 10 MB/s.
With these changes: zero failures, 63 MB/s, 31% lower RSS.

Closes #412

mtglib/proxy.go

@@ -65,10 +65,10 @@ func (p *Proxy) ServeConn(conn essentials.Conn) {
 	ctx := newStreamContext(p.ctx, p.logger, conn)
 	defer ctx.Close()
 
-	go func() {
-		<-ctx.Done()
+	stop := context.AfterFunc(ctx, func() {
 		ctx.Close()
-	}()
+	})
+	defer stop()
 
 	p.eventStream.Send(ctx, NewEventStart(ctx.streamID, ctx.ClientIP()))
 	ctx.logger.Info("Stream has been started")